One of the core issues I coach my clients on is confidence. I found a great book with lots of juicy material on how to bridge the gap between fear and confidence called "The Confidence Gap" by Russ Harris.
5 Main Reasons for Low Self-Confidence-
- Excessive expectations
- Harsh self judgement
- Preoccupation with fear
- Lack of experience
- Lack of skills
Here are the rules of confidence according to "The Confidence Gap":
Rule 1-
The actions of
confidence come first; the feelings of confidence come later.
Rule 2-
Genuine confidence is
not the absence of fear; it is the transformed relationship
with fear.
Rule 3-
Negative thoughts are
normal. Don't fight them; defuse them.
Rule 4-
Self-acceptance trumps
self-esteem.
Rule 5-
Hold your values lightly,
but pursue them vigorously.
Rule 6-
True success is living
by your values.
Rule 7-
Don't obsess about the
outcome; get passionate about the process.
Rule 8-
Don't fight your fear;
allow it, befriend it, channel it.
Rule 9-
Failure hurts- but if we're
willing to learn, it's a wonderful teacher.
Rule 10-
The key to peak
performance is total engagement in the task.
Ask yourself these questions- if you had unlimited confidence, how would you behave differently? How would you talk to yourself? What would you start doing? What would you stop doing? Now act as if you already have the confidence you think you need to move forward. Let me know what daring adventure you embark upon when you take a risk and jump into the unknown!
